heteroromantic asexuals aren’t queer and asexuals as a class are not oppressed on a material basis by non-asexual people as class. i don’t care about having this conversation just don’t talk to me or look at me if this is a point you argue because there is a 100% chance our politics are irreconcilable lmao
So you just want to police other people’s sexualities and define queerness for everyone and not argue about it. Cool. You keep doin’ you.
QUEER IS A FUCKING SLUR OH MY GOD YOU CAN’T RECLAIM IT IF YOU AREN’T AFFECTED BY IT WHICH HETEROROMANTIC ASEXUALS AREN’T
Being heteroromantic doesn’t protect asexuals from feeling like they’re wrong and broken for not feeling sexual attraction. It doesn’t keep them from consenting to unwanted sex because they feel like it’s the price they have to pay to stay in romantic relationships. It doesn’t keep them from feeling isolated and lonely if they choose to stay out of romantic relationships because the sexual part of it was too great a price to pay. It doesn’t keep them from experiencing prejudice from friends, family, peer groups, and often the LGBTQ+ community if they come out. It doesn’t keep people from making stupid amoeba jokes or telling them they need to go to the doctor to get “fixed”. It doesn’t stop people from pitying a sexual person in a relationship with an asexual person and treating them like a martyr. It doesn’t stop people from telling asexual women (usually) to just lay back and let the man in the relationship have his fun. It doesn’t stop people from replacing the A in LGBTQIA with fucking “ally”.
This argument seems to assume that heteroromantic asexual people aren’t queer because other people perceive them as heterosexual. By that logic, a bi/pansexual woman who only ever dates men (for example) shouldn’t claim queer status either, because she isn’t affected by it.
Do you see how saying someone isn’t queer enough or doesn’t suffer enough to claim queer status is a slippery slope we don’t want to be sliding down?
People who are NOT queer are: heterosexual AND cisgender AND heteroromantic (to be fair, I have never heard of a monosexual person romantically attracted to people of a different gender than those they are sexually attracted to—but there are aromantic sexual people).
If you are not even one of these things, you should have a place in the queer community. You should have a place where you can express your feelings and have them considered valid in a world where one type of romantic and sexual relationship is shoved down our throats as a major thing we must all do with our lives.
That’s another thing—the original post also assumes cisgender. At the very least, that should be specified because a heteroromantic asexual is not by default cisgender.
"The trouble is that we have a bad habit, encouraged by pendants and sophisticates, of considering happiness as something rather stupid. Only pain is intellectual, only evil interesting. This is the treason of the artist: a refusal to admit the banality of evil and the terrible boredom of pain."
Ursula K. Le Guin, The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas (via unwritten-heaven)
its true its true being sad and in pain is the most banal most TEDIOUS way to exist and if you think in a million years that being happy is not interesting or fun then im so sorry for you
the utter bore of evil is ignore so often becuase “tragedy makes a great story” but does it really? im so sick and tired of this mentality and the fact that i always want a happy ending is seen as childish
the real interesting stories are the ones where people are given a chance to be happy, to become great, to stop bad things from happening, to be saved. it doesnt have to be easy for them. but i reject the idea that suffering is beautiful.
A Fiery Valentine's Day For Two Firefighters In Love ❧
Sophy Medina and Thomas Olsen both ended up in the hospital on their first Valentine’s Day together.
Tommy says. “If you asked me when I first got on the job, ‘Oh, you’re gonna have kids and marry a firefighter?’ I’d be like, ‘Never.’ But if [a fire] happened on our block, we could take it out.”
"You’re such a nerd," Sophy replies.
"We’d take it down. You could be my backup."
"I would," Sophy laughs.
my favourite part of shakespeare plays is the person at the end that is like “see how these people fucked everything up. don’t do this. look at this fuckery. look at it. fuck this. fuck everything.”